The Law Offices of Scott Garver works diligently to offer you the nurturing, personalized attention you will find helpful.
As an added value, our legal team is providing you with some resources that we hope will help.
These are not intended as medical advice in any way. Instead, see your medical doctor or therapist can customize a program to help you take positive steps necessary to achieve a fresh, healthy future.
The biggest thing that you can do for yourself is to focus on and take care of YOU! Move on and build healthy new relationships … find fresh opportunities to relax and separate yourself from anything that might add stress to your day. Yes, it’s best to let go of the things you cannot control—and focus on the areas you can control.
Below are a variety of resources geared to helping you. These terrific options are available to help you come out of your legal issue feeling whole, healthy, supported, and ready to move forward with confidence.
Family Law / Divorce Resources
Getting YOU back on track
In a world of customization, we all long to find ones that work for us. Because we are all different, we find it difficult to reduce stress. By taking any positive action, you can move from victim to victor! You can reduce feelings of defeat and hopelessness by choosing to move toward a fresh, healthier financial future.
Here’s a list of techniques that can calm stress—particularly during the bankruptcy process:
When we’re stressed, we either breathe too fast or experience shallow breathing. Begin by working on your breathing. Our bodies—particularly our muscles—desperately require oxygen. Improper breathing creates muscle tension and muscle tension brings about more stress. Consult your doctor.
Focusing on the past or worrying about the future increases your stress. Newsflash: YOU CAN’T CHANGE THE PAST. No sense beating yourself up for how you are where you are today. Focus on the actions you can implement now—rather than sitting around rehashing again and again how things became what they are. Decide what you can do today to change for the better. Make a plan and take appropriate action to complete this process in a timely manner. You will be glad you did.
Take short breaks, and yet, remain focused. If gathering all your paperwork for your case gets overwhelming, then get away from it for little while—but not too long. Reengage yourself by doing whatever you need. Taking your next “action step” to completing your goal is a great stress reducer.
Remember that your legal issues—particularly bankruptcy—do not have to define you as a person. It is NOT who you are. Litigation is something you’re going through. It is important to remember that and maintain that boundary.
Make sure you are not crying on every shoulder that will listen. Seek emotional support from people who are kind, understanding, and will allow you to express what you’re feeling without assigning blame, judging you or telling you how to feel or what you should feel. Our feelings are what they are. Suppressing your feelings will only make your emotions come out in ways that will be hurtful to you or others.
This may be a good time to assess your lifestyle and make new goals for your future. For example, take a yoga class or get a massage. Medical evidence suggests that massage is helpful for stress reduction. And potentially, you may make a new friend(s).
Take a walk, go for a run or ride a bike. Plug into your iPod with some inspiring tunes and walk/run/ride the Rails to Trails from Southington to Hamden … or walk or run on your local high school track.
Make sure you receive smiles and hugs every day from those who love you … and give hugs to those you love. Make a conscience effort to give a smile to everyone you pass. The law of reciprocity will work wonders for you. It’s uplifting, and you’ll be a shining example to others during your challenging circumstances.
If you have one … spend time with your pet. Studies have shown that pets have a major calming influence on us when we are stressed out. Clinical studies indicate that spending quality time with a beloved pet triggers hormones that help calm down our nervous system.
Get unplugged NOW! Take some time away from the boob tube and Internet to sit and watch the stars in the gorgeous night sky. This can help you connect with something greater than yourself. Time alone with nature can not only be comforting, it can elevate your attitude.
I’m sure you can think of other things like swimming … or a hobby like scrapbooking or nature photography … Keep trying until you find your sweet spot. In no time you will have found an effective way to forget your past troubles, which, in turn you’ll have helped manage your stress.
Understand that the above is not intended as medical advice. After all, no one can completely get rid of your stress. See your doctor first. He or she will customize a program for you that will help you take positive actions so you can move from feelings of defeat and hopelessness … to a fresh, healthy perspective.